5 Things to Look for in that Special Someone

Now that I'm a woman in my early thirties, I can actually say that I think about marriage. For the longest time I didn't and when those thoughts crept into my head, I fought them; I didn't want to be "that girl." I didn't want to be labeled as a woman looking to settle down. So I pushed whatever "normal" thoughts I had about serious relationships (i.e., one day out of the blue me and my significant other are on the same page emotionally, mentally, financially and any other area in life society thinks should be in line, and BOOM--we're engaged!). Caution: To my knowledge, life does not work out this way! I could be wrong, but this is coming only from my vantage point.


So, while in my quest to learn more about me and start a full blow monogamous relationship with God, I've come up with a list of five things I believe are important to a woman who one day (no time soon) aspires to be with someone the remainder of her days who will scrape the snow off her car, take the garbage out and not let her walk on the outside of the street ;)

These are the things I think you should look for in a potential spouse. Again, this is opinion only, so relax!

1. Relationship with God
If God is at the center of their life, you can rest assured that He'll be at the center of your relationship. Living a faith-based life isn't a hobby--it's a way of life. So be sure that whom you give your time to shares in those views and values because it will play out in every aspect of your relationship.

2. Respect
This may seem like a no-brainer but it's shocking to me how much disrespect women put up with. A good test is when you meet someone, watch how they treat everyone who works at a restaurant. This is a great indicator that no matter what role someone is playing in life, he treats him or her with the upmost respect, likely showing that he'll do the same for you in the long run.

3. Honesty
Someone who is transparent and authentic is rare. Even if that person is honest to a fault, meaning maybe there are things better left unsaid, still appreciate that quality. It's much easier to lie and someone with integrity and character is a real gem.

4. Supportive
Someone will either build you up or break you down. You may not have the same dreams or goals, but you and he should be invested in each other's aspirations. I think it's important for each of you to encourage intellectual, emotional, artistic and spiritual growth. Simply put--hold each other down, period.

5. Can Make You Laugh
One of my favorite things to do is get a good belly-shaking laugh in! We live in a time where there is much to be sad or stressed about. Having someone to make you giggle as you maneuver through the often difficult twists and turns in life can really help to bring you peace.

Obviously there are more than five things to look for and it will be different for everyone. But in my nonscientific opinion, these are pretty important. What it boils down to is when you meet someone that has these attributes or ones you deem essential, just pray. Pray that God will show you who they really are and ask Him if this is the person for you. He will show you and tell you that answer in different ways... Be sure to listen.

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