It's my belief that most people don't take the time to understand who they really are, or how they need to interact to feel loved by someone, or to love on someone - platonic or romantic. In comes the 5 Languages of Love, which provides a deeper way to express love emotionally. All of us have a primary love language and below is a short description of each one, in addition to a link that will take you to a test to find out your love language!
Words of affirmation are simply that - words of praise and appreciation for any action you do. For example: you decide to wash the dishes and your mate tells you, "Hey thanks for doing that, I really appreciate it!" If your love language is Words of Affirmation, their spoken appreciation will fall on you like little doves with hearts dancing around their heads. Well, not really, but you know what I mean ;)
If your love language is Acts of Service, it doesn't matter how many times your significant other tells you they love you. If they don't do anything to help you, like wash the dishes, etc., you will have a hard time feeling loved (sorry, I'm really stuck on this washing dishes example). Meaning, for someone whose love language is Acts of Service, they are an "actions speak louder than words" type of person. So, in order for you to feel loved, someone has to understand your language and do so by lessening the burden of responsibilities in your life.
Receiving Gifts
Giving gifts has always been perceived as an expression of love. It's universal because there is something inside all of us that says if we love someone, we will get them gifts. This is amplified if your love language is Receiving Gifts. That means that you'll feel the most treasured when you receive gifts on your birthday, holiday, anniversary, or "just because occasions." Now, that doesn't mean you're materialistic because the gift need not be expensive, in fact, it's really the thought that counts. If someone takes the time to create a homemade card for you, that will make your heart sing like Adele on her happiest day!
Quality Time
If your love language is Quality Time, then your significant other giving you their undivided attention is what will make you feel most loved. In other words, if he/she wants to talk to you, and you're busy watching a basketball game (as a fellow basketball lover, I know the importance of this), turn off the TV, look in their eyes, and let them express what they need to say. Now you're displaying you understand, and can speak their love language. Annnd, if you engage in the conversation, it's a wrap - their love tank will be overflowing!
Physical Touch
This one is me all day! Even as a baby, you understand and feel loved by physical touch before you even understand the meaning of the word love. Physical touch can be as simple as a touch on the shoulder, holding hands in the car, a kiss hello, etc. If this is your love language, then nothing will communicate love more clearly to you than your mate taking the initiative to reach out and touch you! The man in this picture is the love of my life and understands my love language more than anyone I've ever encountered! xo
I hope this helped!
Click HERE to find out your love language!
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